How Not To Make The Small Stuff Happen?

 As human beings, we make a big deal of some small events without even realizing it. Our entire day is spent making selections about how we are living, what do we say, what do we eat and what do we do; but when we’re so engrossed in the minor stuff, we often miss the major stuff and that can have harsh consequences on our mind, body, and soul. When we get caught in our daily minor struggles, it makes us forget to see back and appreciate the things we’re lucky to have.

“It's often the mundane incidents that reveal how vastly different human temperaments can be”, says Michael D. Robinson, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at North Dakota State University. Some people swoop up their accidentally dropped keys with no complaints and go along their merry way and there are some who, more often than not, can't pick them up without cursing or letting out a big, dejected sigh.

Real issues start arising when we overreact in the circumstances than needed. Obviously, we all have been there, but the reality is that it isn’t very helpful. It only aids to put us at the risk to create a big issue or an accident. Overreacting never makes the situations better; in fact, they usually make them worse. Stress can create conditions where we overreact. Even doing so might release the pressure at the moment, but it doesn’t solve the actual cause of the stress. All it does is create more stress and anxiety. So when you find yourself perspiring the minor events, it might be a signal that there are additional deeper complications you are not dealing with and that makes you liable to blow up at any instant.

People who overreact tend to overthink situations that don't go their way, leaving them incapable of thinking about anything else. Overreacting affects happiness to the point that it gets in the way of stuff they want to do. Thoughts like, “Why do I have such bad luck?” or “This always happens to me”, only creates more stress and anxiety in their lives.

“The regular feeling of stress increases the risk of heart disease and weakens the immune system. It can also compromise some types of memory and learning”, says Carmen Sandi, Ph.D., the director of the Brain Mind Institute at the École Polytechnique Fédérale de Lausanne in Switzerland. If we could all be more even-keeled (so we didn't sweat the small stuff), we would enhance our physical and mental health.

Dr. Hans Selye truly states "It is not our stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” For a hot-tempered type, whose brain already swings near to the emotional side, negative phases can intensify their imbalance. For a well-balanced personality, the intellect may tilt to their emotional side to some extent. It doesn’t matter in whichever group the being falls into, just a slight push towards the reasoning area of the intellect can mean the difference between an argument with a teammate that ruins their whole weekend and the one where they can leave at the workplace with no second thought.

When something happens that truly upsets you, it is practical to be unhappy. But, it is inevitably worthless for us to absorb all the minor things and buildup an overreaction to them every single time. Richard Carlson, the famous author rightly articulates – “Always remember that small stuff happens. No matter who you are, how successful you become, who your contacts are, or anything else, you’re still going to have to deal with your share of small stuff”. The question isn’t whether we will have to deal with such issues or not, but rather how we will tackle them. With practice, the minor events we have to deal with won’t seem like a big deal. On the other hand, it will be perceived as a “small mess”.

There’s something very peaceful in knowing and yielding to the information that petty things happen and that it is the way of life that it’s full of differing choices, wants, wishes, and hopes. It has constantly been that way and will be always. To think otherwise makes it painful and enduring. Once you understand this and stop wanting life to change, in contrast, the environment changes and you start again taking control over your life. Then the things that used to bother you, no more do. What triggered your pain, you now get the issue with viewpoint. To be more exact, than wasting your treasured energy by beating your head along with the walls, you should stay calm, deal with the issue with your finest effort, and walk forward.

There isn’t any magic spell to make your work experience precise or simple. However, I’m convinced, that by boosting your vision and being a less reactive, calm individual, you can learn to win life at pace while bringing out your best self.

Whenever one observes oneself getting too angry, sad, or self-protective on minute things, be content in knowing that there are actions one can take more effectively to manage your emotions.

Take note, it’s totally okay to feel your sentiments and want to blow up at times, however, the way of dealing with circumstances doesn’t likely feel prodigious. Sanctioning us to accept frustrating problems and then find productive means to vent and accord with them benefits us more in the long term.

Everyone gets triggers that can lead us to overreact at certain times. If we know what those triggers are, we can learn to be more in control of ourselves when our buttons are pushed. Generally, we overreact and get the triggers when we work hard on something, and think that somebody is falsely critical of it.

If you can find out what triggers you and get a sense of the circumstances around those triggers, you may well be able to manage yourself well when something upsets you in the future. This gives you time to get many views about what actually ensued when you lost your calm during those minutes. It’s vital to look back, not to punish yourself for overreacting, but to learn from the experience.

Verify your expectations, and make sure that they are realistic. Life can be smooth at times, but difficulties are certain. People and situations are not always foreseeable. Take yourself out of your own mind, and think about how others could probably feel about things. Overreactions sometimes happen when we focus intensively on ourselves and our own feelings.

Always keep in mind that if something has been upsetting you for a long time, the littlest embarrassment can push you to the extreme. Try to address the past and resolve whatever actually worries you in the present. If you don't, be assured that you’ll continue to perspire the minor events. Address matters directly at the instant they arise. Vent out so you can let it go and move ahead.

I can offer you some tips to manage yourself so that you can appropriately respond to the situations that arise. Take a moment. Notice the changes within you (tension in your neck, hot cheeks, elevated heart rate). Keep breathing deeply, and cool down. Think about what just happened rationally by bringing yourself closer to objective truth rather than your subjective experience. Find a way to be empathetic and avoid being personal about what happened to you. Express yourself with “I” statements, or remove yourself from the situation. If you're still upset, find a way to re-channel how you feel.

I hope this has been helpful to you in your efforts to ease up, boost your perspective, and above all, stop sweating unimportant events.